Latest updates on our Power Couple split:Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie

It looks like Brad Pitt isn't the only one getting some visits lately.

E! News has confirmed that the actor has seen his children for the second time since his highly publicized split with Angelina Jolie was announced, however, it's not clear whether the couple's eldest son, Maddox, has gone to see his father since the divorce filing.

A source says that the 15-year-old "is mad at his dad and doesn't want to see him now."

The famous father reportedly had a monitored visit that "lasted about 90 minutes at an undisclosed neutral location." In Touch, who first reported about the visit, also states that, "Brad wasn't as emotional as the first visit, but it was obvious that he was very happy to see the kids."

Meanwhile, Angelina received a visit of her own, but from the FBI. Two FBI agents spent three hours with Jolie and her kids at their Malibu home to gather facts about the alleged private plane incident that occurred between the children and Pitt, according to TMZ.

When asked about the reported visit, an FBI spokesperson told E! News in a statement, "In response to your inquiry regarding allegations within the special aircraft jurisdiction of the United States; specifically, an aircraft carrying Mr. Brad Pitt and his children, the FBI is continuing to gather facts and will evaluate whether an investigation at the federal level will be pursued."

As we previously reported, DCFS continues to investigate allegations that Pitt was involved in an incident with a child aboard a private plane recently, but an insider said that the Allied star's main concern is his children and their well-being.

Jolie initially filed for sole physical custody of the kids, however the two A-listers came to a temporary custody agreement that gave Jolie temporary sole custody of their six kids while Pitt received visitation rights.

According to a source familiar with the voluntary agreement, both parents agreed to participate in individual counseling, and Pitt's initial visit with his children would be with a therapist, though nothing has been mandated for supervision or monitoring.

The source also noted that Jolie doesn't intend for this custody agreement to become permanent; she believes it's  necessary right now and knows she and Pitt will need to co-parent together in the future.

http://www.eonline.com/videos/253174/brad-pitt-sees-his-kids-following-angelina-jolie-split

Read More →

Love and Marriage:Battle 8

Continuation from the previous story...

After a whole month of daily calls to Kenny with no response, I finally gave up. I knew my marriage was over. I had gone through the full cycle from tears to pain in my heart to anger to being just blank. I have finally resigned myself to fate. Even the strength to pray had left me. I have tried interpreting Kenny's silence in different ways but my conclusion was that he just didn't love me enough to fight for us. I sent him different text messages and not once did he humour me and respond. I just could not understand why a man will be silent after hearing his wife was raped.

As always my mum walked into my bedroom that Friday afternoon once again to ask what happened between my husband and I. She had soon figured out something was wrong but I always refused to tell her.

''Lola, you know what? Your father and I have tried. You have stayed in our house for over a month and we have been caring. You can't keep saying there is nothing wrong when I have been married for thirty five years and I know more than you''

''Mum, please I don't have the strength to argue''.

''Okay then, your father and I have decided you can't live here anymore. We will not harbor a married woman in our home. Since you and your husband don't respect us enough to seek for advice. Please go back to him or wherever you want but you cannot stay under my roof''.

Still shocked at what she was saying, ''Mum?''

''Daughter!!! Yes?''

I finally relented. I didn't even have a plan B.'' Mum, Kenny and I have serious problems. Our marriage is not even up to a year and we don't even know how to move forward''.

''Okay tell me everything''.

So I sat for over an hour and told my mum every single detail from my wedding night to the day I left Kenny's house. Surprisingly, my mum did not interrupt or blow up at me. I expected her to start screaming but her calmness amazed me.

''Heeeeeeee Omolola, O ti ba ye je ( you have spoilt the world)'' She said in Yoruba language when I was finally done.

''Mummy haba, what did I do wrong? How can Kenny just abandon me here? His love is fleeting mum, it can't even stand the test of time''. I said with deep anger and disappointment.

''hmmmmm, first of all, you are changing your church. The kind of pastor's wife that will give you such advise is not who you should be listening to. Why didn't you call me? Why did you go to an outsider?''

''Mum, you are the one that said I should keep our matters private''.

''Not when it is crumbling my dear, we all need help once in a while''.

''Okay mum, what do we do now? Do you think there is any chance for Kenny and I''.

''Of course, your father and I have had greater battles that we have overcome. Marriage is filled with battles, we fight, win, conquer and fight another day. We never give up. It only ends the day you stop fighting for it. Lola, you keep fighting till you conquer. There is no end. You made some terrible decisions and took some wrong steps''.

''Mum, what about Kenny? He took a lot of wrong steps too''.

''Yes, I will face Kenny but I need to talk to you first. I told you not to kill yourself over not having a child yet. It will come. You shouldn't have fasted and deprived your husband without his full consent. More so, you should have given him his marital rights between 6pm when you break your fast and midnight when the next day starts. You shouldn't have run from your home without his consent and come hide here. To tell you the truth, it will take God for Kenny to be intimate with you again. Both of you, your actions have spoilt a lot of things. This matter should not have generated to this level. First thing tomorrow morning, I am going back to Abuja with you, we are going to see your husband''

True to her word, by 11 am on Saturday, which was the next day, we had arrived my house. As soon as I saw Kenny's car parked in the compound, my heart started beating fast. I wished he was not home even though mum had called earlier and told him she was coming to see him. He opened the door as soon as we were approaching, I assumed he had seen us through the window and prostrated, greeting my mum in yoruba language. Kenny totally ignored me and my mum just smiled at us. I left them in the sitting room and went into the room. Everything was just as I left it and my investigation as to whether somebody else had been living with him came up empty. I heard my mum call me from the living room and I quickly dropped my bag and went back to join them.

''Mummy, Lola does not want to be married. In less than a year of marriage she has shown blatant disregard and disrespect both for me and this home and I am sick of it. Does she think if it was another man, he won't have started womanizing by now? I stayed faithful even when she refused to be faithful to our marriage vows''. Kenny said with so much anger.

''Please don't threaten us with tales of unfaithfulness. So you want an award because you didn't cheat? I said.

''Keep your mouth shut Lola, just shut up'' my mum shouted while Kenny just shook his head. I instantly felt remorseful.

I listened as my mum and Kenny started talking. I truly listened to his hurts and pains as he opened up to my mum and for the first time I understood the gravity of where we were. By the time they started talking about the rape incident, Kenny shed tears. He just kept quiet while tears fell from his eyes and I was broken for both of us.

''Mummy, I warned Lola, I warned her not to go. I haven't been able to get that image out of my head ever since Daddy told me. Where do we start from? She refused to have s*x with me all in the name of prayers and freely gave it to a criminal?''

''Kenny, don't say she freely gave it. We all still feel the pains of that night most especially your wife. The pain she is still in as a result of that incident is great. She needs a lot of time to heal''. My mum said.

''I warned her, I warned her mummy'' Kenny insisted.

My mum began to talk to Kenny about us communicating better, about understanding each other and being quick to forgive. She spoke and fear gripped my heart as I looked at Kenny's face.

After so much advise from mum, Kenny began to calm down.

''Both of you need to pray, be patient and communicate'' mum said again.

''Mummy, truth be told, I am not sure if this marriage still exists. I don't even know where to start with Lola'' Kenny said.

''You both start with forgiving each other and then take it one step at a time. You start with conversations, heart to heart ones, share your pains and fears and with time the intimacy will come and with time you will heal''.

''Okay mummy, thank you ma.'' Kenny said.

About an hour later, mum left our home in a cab, headed to the airport for her flight back home. She refused to spend the night despite all our pleas. As soon as she left, I turned to Kenny to apologize.

''Baby, I am sorry''.I said to Kenny as he went back to sit on the sofa and I sat beside him.

He turned to me and said ''I pray to God to give me the enabling spirit to take that bad rape incident off my mind, Omololami, I am sorry too, I am sorry I wasn't with you during this painful period. Truth is, I don't even know if we can fix this, but first and foremost, we are going to change our place of worship. We shall pray fervently for God to lead us through this hard time''.

''We will babe'', I said with renewed confidence, ''we will, one day at a time''. To God be the glory, that's THE END.

What lessons have you learnt?
May the Lord give us wisdom to build our home.

Read More →

Love and Marriage:Battle 7

Continuation from the previous story.......

My conversation with Kenny made me realize he didn't value me as his wife and so I made a decision to give him space. I called my mum and told her I was coming home for a week. I was able to convince her, Kenny supported my decision and I packed my bags. I was going to go home for a week. The next morning I told Kenny about my trip.

''I listened to everything you said and I have decided we probably need to give each other some space. I am taking a break and travelling to my parent's house''. I said

Kenny shook his head, ''you should be ashamed of yourself Lola. In fact when they call women to stand up, you should hide your face in shame. So you cannot take care of your home, you can't satisfy your husband and now rather than deal with your problems you are running?

''Kenny, I refuse to be insulted. I sat quietly while you heaped insults on me yesterday but that doesn't mean I will continue to take it. You said my presence is causing you sorrow and now I am giving you space. I will take the time apart to pray for us''

''I don't freaking need your prayers madam. In fact, God will not answer that prayer because he has told you everything you need to do in the Bible. Stop praying for me and start satisfying me''.

''Ehen, so the other day, when I bought s*xy lingerie and waited for you at home, did you not leave me hanging? You are confused and don't know what you want''.

''You want to go? Fine! Get the hell out but you just might not meet this marriage when you come back''.

''Like I said, I will take the time apart to pray, God will sustain our home'' I told him emphatically.

He just shook his head and closed his eyes on the bed, effectively ending the conversation. I packed my bags and headed straight to the airport.

Late in the night that day, while I sat in my parent's sitting room, my mum was trying to get stories out of me.

''So why didn't Kenny take a break with you madam?''

''Mum, he is busy with work, that's the same thing I told dad before''.

''That doesn't mean he should not spend a weekend with us. We have not seen him since the wedding.''

''Isn't that why I am here? At least once you see one of us you have seen two of us. After all the two have become one.'' I said laughing.

''Okay , no problem. I tried to call him earlier that we have seen his wife but he was not picking his call''.

''I am sure he will probably call you back tomorrow. He is probably resting early now that I am not home''.

''Okay, but Omolola how is marriage life? I hope you are being submissive and taking care of your husband well enough''.

''Mummy, did he complain to you? I am trying my best''.

''Why are you getting defensive? Is everything okay? I hope this delay in pregnancy isn't putting you under pressure?''

''No, it's not mum, we are fine with it. Everything is okay''.

''There is no cause for alarm yet. It's not even up to a year yet. I waited 3 years before I was able to get pregnant with your elder brother and then you so everything will be fine.''

''I know mum...''

The hard knock on the door startled us.

''Mum are you expecting anyone so late? Its 11pm already and dad has gone to bed''.

''No I am not but it could be that our neighbours need something, go and open the door''.

As I got close to the door to open it, I was suddenly knocked off my feet by the force of it being jacked open. My eyes went wide open as I saw them, three in number with their weapons held up high. I closed my eyes shut and began to pray.

''Okay so pray very well beautiful girl, you just might need it'' the voice said. My eyes was still squeezed shut so I could not identify which of them spoke. As soon as I felt a hand pull me by my hair, my eyes flipped open and I was dragged into the living room to meet my mum who was already in tears and shaking.

Five days later, I woke up once again with screams as it has been the practice since that horrible night. My dad was immediately by my side soothing me as the tears rolled down my face.

''It's okay Omolola. You're fine and safe. Daddy is here''.

''Daddy, I am afraid. Kenny has not come''.

''I know he hasn't. I will still call him again. Just try and get stronger first okay?''

''He hasn't picked my calls dad. Since you told him, he has not picked my calls once''.

As my dad eventually left me alone in the bedroom with my thoughts, I recalled that evil night as clear as the day. I remember my dad being dragged from the bedroom and asked to give them money. I remember the exhaustive search for money which proved abortive as my dad and mum only had a total of about N50,000 at home. I remember adding the N20,000 I had in my bag and the man telling me I was insulting him with change. As soon as I apologized, he looked at me and really looked at me and I knew what he was going to do before he even did it. I could see it vividly in his eyes. I begged,

''Please, I am married. I beg you''

''So what are you doing in daddy's house fine girl, your husband is not servicing you well abi? I will help his ministry. He needs help''.

I begged, my dad and mum begged and his only response was because of their begging, he won't make them watch. I fought as hard as I could and for every struggle there was a slap and a punch. He finally had to get the other man to hold me down. I fought every step of the way. I was numb. The physical pain was welcome, I could deal with that. I couldn't deal with the heaviness that crushed my heart. All through as he kept thrusting faster than I could ever imagine, I thought of Kenny and how much pain this was going to cause him. I remember him warning me not to make this trip. He kept going on and on for about thirty minutes before he finally let go. Funny how he had the decency to use a condom. I had no strength left. I was broken. For the first time in my christian walk, I questioned God. I asked him questions. His silence was deafening.

It has been five days since my nightmare, five days since my dad informed Kenny, three days since I got back home from the hospital and he still hasn't showed up. I have no more will left to even live another day......*To be continued*.

Part 8 Loading....

Read More →

Love and Marriage:Battle 6

The matter big o.......continuation from the previous story.........

About Eight hours after, I finally sat in the office of the doctor to get a detailed explanation on Kenny's condition. All I had been told as I waited was that he was alive and he had been taken in for ultrasound and later for surgery. The nurses refused to tell me the severity of the accident and I had brought hell down screaming and shouting. Eventually, I called my sister-in-law who came to wait with me and was able to calm me down. I had to leave the hospital briefly to use the cash machine and make some monetary deposits but aside from that I had been unable to drink even a drop of water.

''Mrs Ayorinde, thank you so much for your patience'' the doctor started, but I quickly cut him short

''Sir, please just go straight to the point, how is he? What happened? What was the surgery for? Is he okay? Did the surgery go well?''

''Madam, I will answer all your questions but I need you to relax a bit''

''Okay, please go on'' I said.

''Your husband is fine and the surgery was successful. He suffered from testicular trauma as a result of the force of his testicles on the bicycle when the accident occurred''

''Jesus Christ!!!!! see trouble.. What do you mean testicular trauma? He doesn't have testicles again? How are we supposed to have children now? Haaaaaaa Kenny will kill me''.

''Please relax and let's not jump the gun here. I didn't say he doesn't have testicles again. There was just some rupture and dislocation as well and that is why we had to do an immediate surgery. It has been successfully fixed now and we are hopeful that there should be no cause for infertility in the nearest future. Of course, we will advise that he stays off sexual activity for a while until he is properly healed to avoid him developing hernia. He should be fine within a week''.

''Okay doctor, thank you so much. So when will we be discharged''.

''I will want to just observe him overnight to be sure he is okay. He should be able to go home tomorrow''.

We eventually got home the next day after staying in the hospital all night. His sister left us in the hospital later in the evening after confirming that Kenny was okay. Kenny was  withdrawn and quiet and it felt like the cycle had started again. It was still surreal that it was just yesterday morning we agreed to call a truce and it felt like that did not even happen.

''Darling are you okay? I asked after he had settled down on the bed''

''Lola, no I am not okay. You know what? I regret marrying you. I don't feel like the man that found a wife and found a good thing because it's like your sole purpose is to cause me sorrow and sadness''.

My mouth was agape. I just did not understand the reason for such anonymity.

''You know when I decided to marry you I had a plan. I knew what I wanted. I wanted a woman who will love me and make me happy. I wanted a life of joy and happiness. I wanted to build fun memories of just the two of us even outside the kids but I have not had any of that with you. It's from one problem to another. We have been married for just 9 months and already I am tired''

''Kenny, why will you say all these to me? Why? What exactly have I done to destroy your so called happiness so much?''

''Immediately after the wedding, it took about 2 weeks for you to even calm down enough to let me deflower you. As soon as that was over, you got fixated about pregnancy making s*x totally boring. When I was talking to you about just enjoying each other and having fun, all you did was lie down there missionary style claiming that is the best way to get pregnant. After five months of that, you went into your so called fasting period and now because of all the frustration you have put me through, I went to ride my bicycle just to vent and got into an accident? Did you know it was because I was thinking about you that I lost concentration? And to crown it all, it's like the devil was trying to crack a joke, testicular trauma? I am tired madam''

I sat there in silence not knowing what to say and after a while I just got angry.

''How dare you Kenny? How can you blame me for your sadness or so called unhappiness? I wake up daily praying for you and this is how you repay me? Was it not when you married me your business went from struggling and started excelling and you dare insult me? I wont let the devil use you more than he already has. This conversation is over. Do whatever you want''. I stood up from his side and walked out of the bedroom with deep confusion in my heart.

For the first time I wondered if staying single would have been a better option......

Trouble........Trouble.........Trouble.........

Part 7 Loading.......

Read More →

I WISH I HAD NOT MARRIED HIM

This is just a short story of my life, my experiences, my mistakes and lesson learnt.

My name is Natasha and I have to say that I am a beautiful, intelligent and young christian lady. When I turned 30, the pressure to get married from my family and relatives was too much to handle. Did I mention that I’m the only daughter, so you can imagine what the pressure felt like. At church people started saying that I had a spiritual husband and that I needed deliverance. The pressure became more intense such that I became desperate for marriage. My pastor introduced me to a certain man of God at a church revival who proposed marriage to me and said that God had told him that I was his wife. To be honest I didn't really love this man but I thought things would change and I would develop love for him. My pastor kept on encouraging me and I just said YES  because of the pressure coming from family and also how people thought being single means that you have a spiritual husband. I informed my mother about this man and the marriage plans. she was really happy and set out to make enquiries about him and his family. She was happy because the man was also a pastor. I tried to explain my feelings to my mother  but she brushed me off and said that I should relax and with time I will get to understand and love my husband.

We had our wedding and I became a married woman and hoped for a happily ever after life. My mother came to visit after my child birth and was speechless. She had to ask me if I was really happy and I told her not to bother. She wanted me to get married and I’m married.

In summary, after 2years of marriage with the verbal, emotional, psychological abuse. I am now divorced. I became a divorced, single mother at age 33 because I Married The Man Of Other People’s Dreams But Lived With The Man Of My Nightmares.

The lesson i have learnt is to Never ever give in to pressure from family, friends, society or wherever it may come from because at the end you are the one who has to live with the person and bears the consequence. Everyone blames me for what happened yet they are the ones who pushed me. I was a strong praise and worship leader but now I lost it too. I just want to tell every woman not to give in to the pressure from people about marriage. Also realize that even a man of God is still human and they can make errors so don't think getting married to a pastor is an express ticket to a happy marriage.

Remember they are all men of God and not God of man........

WAIT UPON THE LORD

Read More →

Love and Marriage :Battle 5

Continuation from yesterday's story.....

On Saturday morning when Kenny walked into the house, I had decided enough was enough and I was not going to pay for my sins forever. He had no right whatsoever to keep sleeping outside the house under the guise of anger. I was already waiting for him and as soon as he stepped in, I just blew up,

''Where do you think you are coming from oga?'' I shouted.

He looked at me like I had suddenly grown two heads and to my surprise he replied, ''Sunrise hotel''.

''Is that where you have been staying?'' I asked unsure. Not expecting him to answer in the first place.

''Yes I got a room there'' he answered and looked at me, ''Is that all? he asked.

''No, that is not all Kenny and don't make me feel stupid. You have been sleeping outside for the past three weeks and now I am questioning you, you're acting ignorant'' I was truly bewildered.

''Madam, you asked me where I have been and I answered you. How am I acting ignorant?''

''Kenny, once again, I am sorry''.

''Okay I have heard. Just to be clear though, what exactly are you sorry for?''

''Well, I am sorry for depriving you of s*x and fasting without your agreement. I am sorry for being inconsiderate of your feelings. Please can we just go back to how we were?''

''Okay, I have heard you'' he said with a straight face.

''Kenny, please now. What else do you want me to say or do?''

''Lola I said I have heard. Please don't stress me. I want to ride around the estate on my bicycle for a while. Is that okay?''

''Okay, that is fine. Do you promise to stay at home from today?'' I asked

''Yes, I will. So can I go change and head out now?''

I nodded and got out of his way and he immediately went to the room and changed into his riding outfit. He always looked so handsome in his tights and t-shirt whenever he wanted to exercise and watching him come out of the bedroom, I went to give him a hug half expecting him to turn me away but he gave me a very lingering hug and left soon afterwards. I was so giddy from the obvious reconciliation, I decided to cook something nice for his breakfast when he returned.

A little over thirty minutes later, I got the call that changed my life forever. With tears in my eyes not knowing what to expect, I grabbed my car keys and rushed out of the house to the hospital address I had been given. I still could not believe my ears that Kenny had been in an accident. He just left home barely 30 minutes earlier. The caller was unable to give details of the severity of the accident or what happened. As I drove out and met with traffic, I tried calling his number back to get more details but it was switched off. I contemplated calling family and friends but I decided to know the status of his health before calling anybody.

''Oh Lord, help me. You said we shall not die God, please keep my husband. I will not be a widow in my youth oh Lord.''

Words of prayer failed me. I did not even know how to pray. Almost an hour later, I finally drove into the hospital compound and ran inside with deep fear, not knowing what to expect..

Please share your thoughts..........

Part 6 Loading ... !!! Tomorrow!!!!

Read More →

Love and Marriage :Battle 4

Still on the matter....

It has been a week since I finished fasting and Kenny has still not spent a single night in the house. Every morning he came home to dress for work and didn't come home till the next morning. Every morning I met him at the door begging and cajoling but it was always the same. He totally ignored me, walked past into the guest room and walked back out once he was done changing cloths and having his bath. Not one word was ever said in acknowledgment.

I began to think I probably should have compromised during the 100 days. I did not expect him to take it this far. I did not even know what plausible solution I could execute. I knew s*x was a big deal to men but it was always painful for me anyway so I was never all excited about it. On our wedding night, when Kenny deflowered me, I thought I was only going to feel the pain for less than a week but it has been six months and every single intimacy we have had was laced with very uncomfortable pain. Chauvinist as Kenny was, he felt I was just making a mountain out of a molehill and s*x could not be as painful as I was making it to be. Truth was if not for the sake of procreation I was comfortable not having s*x ever. The hype is definitely more than the experience.

I finally decided that maybe some physical solution was needed since the spiritual was not solving Kenny and I's problem. I went to Google that afternoon as I got home from work and searched '' how to stop painful s*x''. As soon as I finished reading of different positions to do to ease the pain and how the pain was coming from my mind. I made a few decisions on making sure s*x became enjoyable. Next, I Googled, ''how to seduce your husband and I felt so uncomfortable with the sheer number of unholy things I discovered. I decided to take a bold step and put some things I found to practice to ensure Kenny finally stayed home for the night. As alien as it felt, I typed some steamy texts I found online to Kenny at one hour interval each,

''I am burning with desire for you honey''

When I did not get any response an hour later, I sent another one I found online,

''I can't focus, all I can think about is what you will do to me if you were here with me''

Still no response, I sent this 30 minutes later,

''You taught me how to make love, tonight I will show you how much I have learnt''

I got a response after this saying,

''Please I am in a meeting with the board''

I was so happy I literally jumped up from my seat. This was the only statement Kenny had sent to me in a week and I decided to send more.

''Just thinking about you inside of me...''

He responded immediately,

''Stop this rubbish Omolola''

I decided I had enough of Google and composed one text message of my own.

''Please come home and stay tonight. I accept I was wrong. I want to make it right and make it up to you. Please give me a chance, I love you baby''.

He responded simply with,

''Okay''.

I was so happy and I quickly jumped up from the couch and drove to the supermarket. I bought a new matching lingerie, a foot massage kit and also full body massage oil. I had read on Google that massaging the foot and body could do wonders in pointing in the right direction. I also bought a lubricator. Google had taught me so much. I immediately rushed home after and prepared fried rice with plantain and peppered chicken for Kenny. By 8pm, I was finally done and ready for him to walk in. I sat on the sofa in my lingerie and the table was already set. I tried calling Kenny but his phone was off so I waited.

I must have slept off on the sofa because the sound of the door opening woke me up the next morning at about 7am. Kenny never showed up last night. He walked in and paused for a minute staring at me before walking past as usual to the guest room. I sat down in frustration and cried so hard. I was still crying when he shut the door.

Part 5 Loading.........

Read More →

Love and Marriage : Battle 3

Continuation from the previous story......

I decided that night that I had had enough of Kenny's erratic behaviour and we needed counselling. I waited for him to come home the next morning but he never showed up. I called him around noon when I was getting worried but he did not pick my call. I got a text shortly after saying,

''I am quite surprised you are looking for me. Don't worry, I am fine. Don't let me distract you from God''.

I decided it was time to seek counsel from my pastor's wife.

As I sat down with Mummy as we normally call her that evening after a word of prayer and recounted the full story of our challenges from the beginning of the fasting period. I was quite hopeful that I will get solutions on the next step to take. Mummy looked at me and shook her head as I showed her the last text I got from Kenny on my phone

''Sister Lola, what does the Bible say about our parents and honour?''

''Honour your father and mother, that your days might be long'' I quickly replied wondering why we were talking about my parents when it was my marriage that needed healing.

''Do you remember when you came to me and decided you wanted to marry this young man who
was barely a baby in the Lord, i warned you to look out for giants in the spirit. If you had honoured my words, surely the days of your marriage would have been long'', she said with obvious annoyance.

''I am sorry mummy, I love my husband and I think he loves God too''

''He loves God? You are still defending his actions? A man that cannot agree with you in prayer? That will not deny his body to feed his spirit? She asked me.

''I am sorry ma'' I quickly said. Mummy was known for her short temper and I did not want to get on her bad side.

''Anyway the deed has been done. We need to find a way forward. You see the devil is not resting. He is obviously seeking to devour your marriage. Remember the scripture in Ephesians 6: 12 says, we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities, against powers and against the rulers of the darkness of this world. The battle is not with your husband. It is a fight in the spirit''.

''Okay ma'' I said.

''The devil knows this fast is going to liberate your marriage and he wants to stop it at all cost. The flesh will be satisfied eventually but you need to be spiritually fortified first. So make sure you complete it in total consecration to God''.

''Okay ma. What do I now do about his refusal to come home ma?''

''Oh don't worry Lola, he will come home. He is like the prodigal son, he will surely return. Let us pray my dear''.

By the time I left my pastor's house after about two hours of prayer. I felt stronger and better. Kenny was just over reacting and I was definitely on the right course. I just needed to keep praying and not let me faith be shaken. When I got home and met Kenny relaxing in the sitting room, it confirmed to me that everything mummy said was correct since he returned like she had prophesied.

 As the days passed things got more estranged. Kenny stopped going to our church and demanded I move to this new church he found. Of course I vehemently refused. It is important to be grounded and not church belly-hopping. I got daily text motivations from my mummy in the Lord and that just encouraged me.

Finally the last day of the 100 days came and it was announced in church that couples should endeavour to attend together since there was going to be an all night prayer. I begged and pleaded with Kenny but he adamantly refused. I went to church alone that night and prayed every prayer possible. My joy knew no bounds the next morning because I knew that all the fight I had with Kenny was finally going to be over. I was going to make sure we had as much s*x as he wanted later that night.

Part 4 Loading........

Read More →

Love and Marriage: Battle 2

Continuation from yesterday's story.....

As soon as Kehinde left for work, I decided to take his matter to God in prayer. I went on my knees and was lost in prayer for the next four hours.

''Father, defend me in my marriage, cast out every demon that has possessed my husband's heart''. Proverbs 21:1 says, "The king's heart is in the hand of the lord, he turns it whichever way. Oh God turn my husband's heart away from s*x and all things of the flesh during these 100 days of fasting, in the name of Jesus. Towards the end of my prayer, I suddenly got an inspiration from the Holy Spirit on what to do next.

There was no point trying to tell Kenny he could not have s*x with me, I only had to use wisdom to avoid it by doing things that will not even get him interested. So I decided not to have my bath the whole of that day. I knew how much Kenny liked me bathing and all clean. By the time he got home around 7pm that day,

I made sure dinner was ready. I could not have been more wrong because another argument ensued as soon as he came in through the door.

''Madam, have you sorted out your issues yet?'' he said.

''What issues Kenny? Please come and have your dinner''.

''Did you think I was joking? Did you think not taking your bath will work on me? Or you did you think I will not know you enough to know that not taking your bath is a tactic to avoid s*x?''

I was quite shocked and kind of speechless that he immediately realized what my plan was..

Kenny, please be understanding. I need to consecrate myself to God''. I resorted to begging instead.

''Lola, get it straight, I am not asking you not to fast. What is wrong with having s*x between 6pm that you break your fast and midnight that the next day starts?

 That is all I am asking'' he tried to negotiate.

''I am sorry Kenny, I don't believe that is good enough. I am supposed to be consecrated for 100 days. Having s*x during that time just makes me feel unclean''. I explained.

''What is unclean about s*x between husband and wife babe? It is totally biblical''

See Kenny, you just need to be patient. I have just 85 days left and then we can go back to doing the dirty''.

''Let me tell you something Lola, this is the last time I will have this discussion with you. If you cannot find a way to balance your marriage and fasting, then you just might not have a marriage to come back to after your 100 days''.

''What do you mean by that Kenny? God forbid such confession?'' I said immediately

Kenny left me standing there and went into the room. My surprise was complete later that night when he moved most of his things to the guest room. I was going to beg him but I just later decided it was for the best if he stayed in the guest room for the next 85 days. This was probably God's way of creating a solution for me. I went on my knees that night and sang in gratitude to God for making a way for me where I thought there was none.

By day 60 of my fasting and prayer, I was frustrated. The joy and excitement I got from fasting
and prayer had gone. Kenny and I had become total strangers in the house. He had not eaten my food in over 6 weeks and I was worried. He had started coming home quite late and we did not even talk anymore. Every time I tried to talk to him, he just shut me out.

We both went to work and came back and went into separate rooms. I did not even know where to start from. I knew for a fact I had not done anything wrong and was just doing the best for our marriage and I
wondered constantly why Kenny was so blinded by
unreasonable rage. I wondered where all the promises of not going to bed in anger went.

I finally reached the end of my rope that week when I got a text from him around 8pm saying,

''Don't wait up for me. I wont be coming home tonight''.

I could not believe my eyes and I immediately sent him a text saying,

'' Where are you? Why won't you come home?''

His reply made me burst into tears. ''Please ask the Holy spirit to reveal it to you in prayer''

My marriage is in trouble.........            
Share your thoughts......Part 3 loading!!!!!

Read More →

Love and Marriage

This is a gripping story on love and marriage if you are standing get a sit and strap down for take off!!!!

BATTLE 1
As soon as i cleared out the dinner table, i went into the bedroom, not bothering to say goodnight to Kenny in the living room .I knew he was going to come to bed soon enough.I needed him to think i was fast asleep by the time he came to bed.I quickly got into the bathroom and had a quick shower before going to bed.I made sure i put on my long pyjamas so there was no way he could have easy access to my body.About an hour later when i heard him coming to bed and turn the other way, i finally let out the breath i was holding .I managed to escape the s*x tonight.

By the time i woke up the next morning, i knew we were going to have another round of noise and fight and i quickly said a silent prayer to God for strength. I could feel his hand roaming round my body relentlessly and there was no doubt in my mind what the expected end result will be.I opened my eyes and took a glimpse at the clock on the wall.It was just 6am. I turned and removed his hands from my body and tried to get up only to be pulled back. By the third time of going through the same motion, he finally spoke up.

''Babe, what is the excuse today? It has been 2 weeks for Christ sake.
How am i suppose to be happy if you won't even have s*x with me?''he said with obvious frustration in his voice.

''So your happiness is now tied to s*x?You still don't get it, do you? I am doing this for us.For our home and our future. I told you before i started, this was going to happen and you agreed and now you want to make me feel guilty.Seriously i am confused''.

''Omololami, you know i am not opposed to prayer and fasting.I love God too and i go to church but you cannot honestly expect me not to have s*x for the next 100 days just because you want to fast''.

I was so angry at that statement and i flared up.

''Seriously Kenny, are you kidding me right now?What happened to self control?This just shows how far you have fallen from faith.Is this not the same you that used to fast with me all the time before we got married? So all that spirituality was a lie? Did we not court for two years without s*x?So you must have been cheating on me.''

''What?How can you say that?Are you crazy?How can you even compare both scenarios?I was single then now i am married.Why did i get married if i can't have s*x?

''Oh so now i am a s*x machine?You married me for s*x?''I asked

''You know what, i won't waste my time having this fruitless conversation with you.I am warning you for the last time, I won't take this your fasting bullshit and you will learn to respect me in this house.If this is the rubbish they are teaching you in church, i will ban you from going there''.

''You won't dare Kehinde Ayorinde.......You will not dare. If i ever have to choose between you and my God, trust me you will loose.It is God first and you second.That devil that is trying to use you, will not find a place''.

''Try me, Lola....just try me''he said as he walked into the bathroom and slammed the door.

I walked out of the room and went into the kitchen heartbroken. As i went about making Kenny's lunch that he usually takes to work, i was so sad. I didn't understand Kenny's bitterness towards my relationship with God.I didn't expect to have these kind of issues just after 6 months of marriage.

He knew how much i loved God and how much the relationship means to me and he was proving so difficult.We even talked about this while we were courting and he used to tell me how much he loved my passion for God.We have tried getting pregnant for the past 5 months and nothing has happened and i knew i needed to tackle it in prayer before 5 months turned to 15 years and i told him, i decided to participate in the 100 days fasting in church.

Initially, he had agreed to join me but stopped within 3 days .I didn't get offended to do the prayers myself, i just didn't expect him to be bitter about it.

After packing his lunch, Kenny came out fully dressed and just walked past me without picking up his food as usual. I quickly ran after him and caught up with him, just as he was getting into the car.

''You didn't take your food'' I said......

''Take that rubbish food and get out of my sight. I don't want your food, now or ever until you learn to respect me and decides what is important to you'' he said and slammed the door, driving away while i stood there .

We had a lot of disagreements over s*x in the last two weeks but i had never seen Kenny so bitter before. I knew there and then i needed to pray for my home .Casting out every demon that suddenly.................

Y'll know Jojo has her own opinion about issues like this.....

Share your thoughts

TO BE CONTINUED TOMORROW....

Read More →

Questions you need to ask yourself before leaving a partner

I hear some people say not everyone that cheats on their partner deserves to be dumped. Let me ask you a question. It’s going to seem really obvious and easy to answer on the surface, but once you give it some thought, it might not seem so easy.

• Is kissing cheating?
  
  
  Easy, right?
  
  
  Sure it is. 
  
  
  But…

• Would you end a romance with that special one in your life because he/she kissed another person?  

           What if the person you love,that you were going to probably marry did more;making out                        hooking up or even s*x?

• What sort of cheating would be enough to make you want to throw it all away.
  
  
  Came across a  viral video from Mexico that got me thinking about the kind of cheating that can end a relationship.

• I kept asking where is that line? And who gets to draw it?
  
  
  In the video, i'm not talking about a peck on the cheek. That’s probably pretty easy to forgive,right? I'm talking about making out. (Admittedly, drunken making out, if that makes a   difference to you.)

• Does that change it for you? Does it fit the definition of cheating?

          The story from Mexico is about a bachelorette party that turned out bad. A bride to-be and her             friends went out for one final wild night at a resort bar called the Lady Coralina. The lady                     extremely tipsy and made out with a stranger by the pool bar.

          It's not exactly an uncommon story…

          Unfortunately for her, somebody at the bar recorded the make-out session and shared it                        online where it quickly went viral with the hashtag #LadyCoralina(part of the video's illegal                 appeal is that the lady was  dressed as a single woman and the man she was kissing was not                  her groom to be)

         The video made the bride and groom's family call off the wedding.

          It's a humiliating circumstance all around, however it does bring up that BIG issue.The                         question still remains......

• Would you end an engagement if you found out your partner cheated ?
  
  
   Clearly, deceit and unfaithfulness can't be ignored in a relationship. It addresses the level of  trust and regard between the couple. Be that as it may, society doesn't see kissing another    person as being unfaithful. Indeed, a 2014 survey found that 60 percent of men and 34 percent  of ladies felt that kissing somebody other than your partner is a pardonable offense.
  
  
   However, shouldn't something be said about different offenses?

• Do all unfaithful partners deserve to be dumped?
  
  
  For me, there are a lot of factors that need to be considered and questions I’d need answers.
  
  
  Let’s use the Lady Coralina incident as a case study. Because it’s not me, and apparently not you.So we can think it through here and debate it without the complication of our own heartbreak or sense of betrayal clouding our judgement.

• Was there malicious intent behind the act? In this case, probably not. It’s not likely that she  planned on breaking up with her fiance if their wedding was already scheduled.
  
  
  You need to ask yourself whether your partner was trying to get back at you,disregard your feelings or trying to end your relationship.Those are all pretty malicious. If so,that kissing spell isn’t just cheating, it’s also a sign that relationship needs to end.

Share your views........

Read More →

8 Traits That Can Destroy Your Relationship

Most relationship ended because one gets to be unfaithful. However, many relationship also ended  due to some individual attributes or qualities of the general public which causes difficulties that later wreck the relationship. Before it's past the point of no return, you better check it now from my rundown which do you display and how it can ruin your relationship.

• Dishonesty
  
  Beyond any doubt everyone would agree with me that dishonesty or lying to your partner can destroy relationship. In spite of the fact that occasionally we lie since we would prefer not to hurt our partner. In any case, before you do that, ask yourself these questions, "wouldn't she be hurt more if she discovered I lied? Would lying be less hurting than being real?" No matter what your reasons are,it is certain you lied. When you lie, you are now altering the course of your relationship. You are deceiving her and your whole relationship.

• Absence of Trust
  
  There is an absence of trust to your partner if you don't believe that he/she can offer you with the truth. If you are always doubtful with what he tells and shows you. In the event that you can't just agree with his yes and no. In not putting your trust in him, you're simply harming your own self. You will start to think negatively and this will happen again and again until you have totally overlooked how to trust that individual you cherish. In what capacity would you be able to carry on with your existence with the individual you don't trust? You will never discover peace and assurance in continually questioning your partner.

• Possessiveness 
  
  The world doesn't just revolve around you. The people around you are part of that world. So couples ought to live their lives with the people around them not minding their differences . In that capacity, a man ought not  think or act like somebody is going to grab his young lady. I recall a friend whining about her man being excessively possessive. He doesn't want her to hang out with her colleagues due to the fact that there are some young men among them. A relationship requires flexibility for it to develop. You already possess that person you love .If you want to have her forever, then let your relationship grow, give it some freedom. Rather than preventing her from seeing her colleagues, why not go along with them? Try not to detain her in your love since all who are detained, their main wish is to have the capacity to escape from that jail. You don't want her to have the same wish!

• Excessively Demanding
  
  I trust i'm not being subjective here but rather, I think this one is a typical issue with young ladies. Do this,do that. Give me a chance to ask you, do you truly adore this individual? Is it true that you were searching for a partner to love and who will love you back or you were simply searching for a slave to take after your requests? Your partner is not your slave or your pet so don't treat him/her like one. If you need his/her help, then be kind to make such request. In any case, don't just give him a chance to do everything, do your part. Wouldn't you agree that relationship develops better if two individuals do the things together?

• Passiveness
  
  If  we have possessive partners, there are also some passive partners. You are one if you don’t know how to make a good fight for what you desire. You generally look for approval from others. For example, your parents don't care about your girlfriend for some reasons. In films with this sort of story, regularly the man battles for the young lady. All things considered, would you do likewise? What would you do for the individual you adore and to save your relationship? Don't just live her in the dream you created in her mind when you first told her "I adore you". Make that dream  a reality.

• Unappreciative
  
  One thing I've learnt in my past relationship is never to regret the things i have done for someone i once loved. But, isn’t it more fulfilling if that person also appreciates the things you've done for him/her? Seriously, you don’t always have to return the favor because,for a man who's in love, a simple hug or kiss could be more than enough. Your simple "thank you" could effectively mean a great deal. You don't need to say those sweet words "I cherish you", simply demonstrate it through your activities. Particularly to young ladies, activities/actions speaks louder than words. Else, she will start to think as you don't adore her.

• Inconsiderate
  
  Now and again our partners make promises which may not be put into realization. Before you make your judgment, make sure you give utmost consideration to every reason he or she has. Else, you are being inconsiderate.Just like when your boyfriend cannot pick you from work and drive you home because he has to finish his presentation for his meeting the next day. It's fine to be disturbed when he can't keep his promise, however be sensible. Weigh the fact that he has substantial reasons. You live in the realm of reality so be reasonable. Besides,he maybe doing this for the future of both of you. He’s already carrying a lot of pressure from his other responsibilities. Don’t add anymore of it, he might no longer be able to carry it all.
  
  In reality, nobody is flawless and there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. In any case, this doesn't give you a reason to act naughty. Reassess yourself: Am I creating our relationship to break? Am I putting our relationship into danger? It hasn't gotten to the point of no return. There is always a room for improvement.
  
  Am i missing something? Don't you agree with me? Speak your mind........
  
  

Read More →

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt split

The planet is stunned — SHOCKED! — at the news Tuesday that Angelina Jolie petitioned for separation from Brad Pitt; now comes the typical rush of gossipy hypothesis from the media and separation court peanut galleries about why.

Is it safe to say that she was angry  his parenting policies ? Were there worries about drinking and medications? Did one of them have — gasp! — an affair? (Non of this is uncommon in Hollywood.)

The approaching separation of a broadly respected "brilliant" couple following 12 years together, and only two years of marriage, comes after over a year of numerous Hollywood separations, including
the toxic split just a month ago of Johnny Depp and Amber Heard following 15 months of marriage.

Still on our power couple matter.......

In any case, that chaotic business could not hope to compare to the separation of Jolie and Pitt, both multimillionaire movie stars, both celebrated human-rights activists, owners of luxury properties in the USA and abroad, and the guardians of six youngsters.

This is what we know and what questions remain:

What does Jolie's separation recording say?

The archive, recorded in Los Angeles Monday, refers to "beyond reconciliation contrasts," the standard dialect in separation procedures, without any insights about what the distinctions involved. It says the two separated last Thursday, Sept. 15. It demonstrates she is not looking for spousal backing.

She records "different adornments and other belongings," and income from and after the division as "independent" property, and shows group and semi group property are to be resolved.

It lists their six kids (Maddox, 15, Pax, 12, Zahara, 11, Shiloh, 10, and twins Vivienne and Knox, 8).

What do Jolie and Pitt need to say? 

Very little and what they said was for the most part standard.

Her attorney, Robert Offer, issued an announcement Tuesday for her sake, affirming Jolie, 41, petitioned for separation, a choice "made for the strength of the family. She won't remark as of now, and asks that the family be given their protection amid this troublesome time."

Read More →

Signs that shows you are single yet married

In order to make a relationship work, i believe there are certain behaviors married couples just shouldn't do. Here are some signs that you may be acting single while married.

• Are you flirting with someone other than your spouse? For most singles, flirting comes with territory, which is fine when dating. However,flirting with someone other than your spouse could destroy your marriage(even if you think it's innocent). All those flirtatious behaviors, like batting those eyes or exchanging sexy glances should be saved for your spouse's benefit only.

• Are you seeking attention from someone other than your spouse? Who doesn't enjoy compliments or attention from someone who recognizes our assets? Hungering for attention from someone other than your spouse is sending out a message about your marriage. If you're craving that attention, then share it with your spouse first and request more of what you need.

• Are you sharing too many secret details about your marriage? 

• Are you choosing not to wear your wedding ring? Being intentionally selective when it comes to wearing or not wearing your wedding ring/band is another sign,in my opinion. If you're removing it when you're going out in the hopes to appear single, you may be playing with fire.

• Are you playing hard to get with your spouse? Making your spouse chase you is another one of those games singles can play, but married couples shouldn't. Having to prove themselves repeatedly or having to beg for intimacy is going to get very old really quickly.

• Are you withholding information from your spouse? I've discovered that vulnerability is another area where it's cool for singles to keep some things to themselves while dating but not so for married couples.

• Are you living like you're single? Coming and going as you please worked for you as a single but not so much for married couples. You wouldn't want him or her to worry or wonder where you are.

• Are you talking like you're single? Going on and on about how fine someone else is, how good their bodies look and what you'd like to physically do to them could be hurtful to your spouse. For me, demonstrating respect is key in marriage.I don't ever want to do or say anything that would cause my partner feel uncomfortable.

• Are you putting yourself in tempting situations? My single girlfriends sometimes hang out in places where they know there will be single men. It's intentional. Married couples should be mindful of situations and environment they place themselves, it  could be harmful to their marriage.

• Are you acting single on social media? From reconnecting with old flames, to posting inappropriate pictures,to criticizing and shaming a spouse publicly,each have the potential to destroy a marriage, Married couples have to be mindful of all these.

Inspired by Neka, a.k.a the love doctor

Read More →

TIPS ON HOW TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORK

Remember the rules you learnt in kindergarten on how to behave and treat each other? Well, I've put together similar list for married couples.

Below  are simple tips from A to Z that will help you have a happy relationship.

Always apologize when you are wrong. It's a mature thing to do.

Be available when your spouse needs you. Don't put him/her on the back burner.

Control your tongue. No explanation needed.

Don't neglect each other. This opens doors that need to remain closed.

Express your love towards one another. However you feel comfortable ,with words,gifts etc.

Focus on your marriage,no one else's. The grass may appear greener on the other side.

Give each other space. Everyone needs time alone.

Help each other. Where one is weak, the other should be strong.

Initiates s*x at different times of the day. This can be fun!

Joke as often as possible with each other. Laughter is great for the soul.

Keep God in your marriage.I can't express how important this is.

Listen when your spouse talks to you. You don't have to fix things all the time, just listen and that's the part i love most.

Memorize your spouse's favorite things. Everyone loves ''just because'' gifts.

Never go to bed angry. This can be difficult but not impossible.

Offer praise when it's due. No better way to boost the ego.

Put away childish behavior. Marriage is for grown ups.

Quit thinking you always have the last word. You don't .

Respect your spouse. Always

Stay away from people who mean you no good. You know who they are.

Talk about what's bothering you. Don't assume your spouse knows.

Understand that your marriage won't be perfect. And that's okay because no one is perfect.

Voice any concern you have to your spouse when they pop up. Don't wait.

Whisper sweet nothing to your spouse. If you do it right, those nothing will definitely turn into something!

XOXO every single day.

You know ....kisses and hugs.

Zero in on the root of any problem that comes up and destroy it. This may take time, but you can do it.........

Learn to make your marriage work.
Never lose the desire to have a happy marriage.

Read More →

How to make your girl jealous

yaay........Josephine is back!!!!

Don't ask what happened to me, life happened to me my people......

Back to the relationship issue on ground, you all know how i love man and woman talk

Jealousy is indeed a pleasant emotion to watch. How men love to watch their girlfriends fuming with jealousy when they see another pretty lady holding their hands or going to the cinema to see a movie.

Your girl maybe feeling unhappy, but to see her that way is a pure sinful joy. And if you are looking for some ways to fodder her jealousy pangs, read on:

1. Get Closer... to the ‘Other Woman’

Come on, you can afford that much risk. Just hold her hand, not in a romantic gesture though. Just make a ‘see you’ promise to her while holding her hands and watch your girlfriends eyes fixed forever on that little shake of hands. You will answer questions ehn, don't say you read it here oh.....

2. Admire Someone She Hates

Yeah, this might sound like taking it too far, but where is the fun in NOT taking it too far? You are making her jealous on purpose. You can be bad. You can be evil.

3. “Woo! What a Hot Chick!”

How many times have you almost uttered these words when you are with your girl, and then stopped yourself right there on the edge? This time round, just let the words flow. Make sure you utter these words loud and clear while you are ogling that hot chick at the places you meant to ogle in the first place.

4. Flirt With Her Best Friend

That’s the first thing you thought of, didn’t you? But then, the ‘what will she think’ questions started bothering you soon enough. She will think exactly what you want her to think, and don’t worry about her friend, she too will enjoy the attention. Best would be to inform her in advance of your intentions in order to create boundaries. That way you have to worry about one thing less.

5. Hang Out With Other Girls

Go a yard further. Hang out with other girls  more frequently than you usually do. And making your intent very clear is advisable. Who knows, you may be an unrecognized Casanova, who melts a girl’s heart in just a date! 

You didn't hear that from me...........

There are so many ways to grill your girlfriend with jealousy but having done all that, one thing that is worth mentioning is that yours might be a girl who does not show jealousy traits easily. Rather she might retaliate by hanging out with other guys, clicking pictures with them and saying stuff like, ‘oh he is so much fun’. In such a scenario, make sure that jealousy doesn’t drip like sweat from your body.

Read More →

Must Read- Parenting Guide against kidnapping

Read More →

Be Single and Happy

Hey, you're single! You don't need to be disappointed. I bring you five benefits that a single status gets you to give you an edge over your married counterparts.

Sleep
Remember your mother waking up your father every day? Yes, you are lucky. Being single gives you good sleep. There is no one to count the hours you have slept in bed. It is a beautiful world with no one to nag you. Just your bed, your pillow and you!

Money
Being single makes you the Finance Minister. You are free to manage your money. Sharing is a sin. You don't have to make budgets too. Get anything that you wish. You are the boss.

Career
You are the boss of your professional life too. You have the freedom to work anytime you want. Socialize all day and do your tasks all night. You can laugh off at your married colleagues who have to rush home to serve their spouse. You are free from commitments. You also don't share your salaries with anyone. I like this part.

Denial
Remember, when you are single, you are not alone. Rejection and denial are your best pals. If you are stuck on a date that's  turning bad, make an excuse and get out of that place. No one is asking you to stick there!

Self-Amusement
Call up friends for PS 4, Xbox one, Candy crush  for your amusement. Cook for yourself from whatever you can find in the kitchen. Spy your neighbors. The possibilities are just infinite.

Being single kinda look interesting oh, just saying.

Read More →

Why modern relationships are falling apart so easily today

Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we fail at love every time, despite trying so hard? Why have humans suddenly become so inept at making relationships last? Have we forgotten how to love? Or worse, forgotten what love is?

We’re not prepared. We’re not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We’re not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We’re quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don’t let our love grow, we let go before time.

It’s not love we’re looking for, only excitement and thrill in life. We want someone to watch movies and party with, not someone who understands us even in our deepest silences. We spend time together, we don’t make memories. We don’t want the boring life. We don’t want a partner for life, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, this very instant. When the excitement fades, we discover nobody ever prepared us for the mundane. We don’t believe in the beauty of predictability because we’re too blinded by the thrill of adventure.

We immerse ourselves in the inconsequentials of the city life, leaving no space for love. We don’t have time to love, we don’t have the patience to deal with relationships. We’re busy people chasing materialistic dreams and there’s no scope to love. Relationships are nothing more than convenience.

We look for instant gratification in everything we do – the things we post online, the careers we choose, and the people we fall in love with. We want the maturity in a relationship that comes with time, the emotional connect that develops over years, that sense of belonging when we barely even know the other person. Apparently, nothing’s worth our time and patience – not even love.

We’d rather spend an hour each with a hundred people than spending a day with one. We believe in having ‘options’. We’re ‘social’ people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We’re greedy. We want to have everything. We get into relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment we find someone better. We don’t want to bring out the best in that one person. We want them to be perfect. We date a lot of people but rarely give any of them a real chance. We’re disappointed in everyone.

Technology has brought us closer, so close that it’s impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don’t feel the need to spend time together anymore. We have too much of each other already. There’s nothing left to talk about.

We’re a generation of ‘wanderers’ who wouldn’t stay at one place for too long. Everyone is commitment phobic. We believe we’re not meant for relationships. We don’t want to settle down. Even the thought of it is scary. We cannot imagine being with one person for the rest of our lives. We walk away. We despise permanence like its some social evil. We like to believe we’re ‘different’ than the rest. We like to believe we don’t conform to social norms.

We’re a generation that calls itself ‘sexually liberated’. We can tell s** apart from love, or so we think. We’re the hook-up-break-up generation. We have s** first and then decide if we want to love someone. S** comes easy, loyalty doesn’t. Getting laid has become the new getting drunk. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good. It’s all the temporary fulfillment we need. S** outside relationships isn’t a taboo anymore. Relationships aren’t that simple anymore. There are open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached – we’ve left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.

We’re the practical generation who runs by logic alone. We don’t know how to love madly anymore. We wouldn’t take a flight to a far-off land just to see someone we love. We’d break up because, long distance. We’re too sensible for love. Too sensible for our own good.

We’re a scared generation – scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get our hearts broken. We don’t allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We lurk from behind walls we’ve created ourselves, looking for love and running away the moment we really find it. We suddenly ‘cannot handle it’. We don’t want to be vulnerable. We don’t want to bare our soul to anyone. We’re too guarded.

We don’t even value relationships anymore. We let go of the most wonderful people for ‘the other fishes in the sea.’ We don’t consider them sacred anymore.

There’s nothing we couldn’t conquer in this world, and yet, here we are ham-fisted at the game of love – the most basic of human instincts. Evolution, they call it.

Read More →

How to keep a man on a lock down

Chatting with my girl and all of a sudden the question pooped, how can i keep a man on a lock down?

She has had so many bad relationships  and nothing works and would like to know where she has gone wrong.

As the aproko i be na ,went around asking questions and trust me i got some good response;

Character:  some guys say its not just boobs and ass,a good character can keep him on the lock down. He is concerned about what is on the inside.

Independent woman: I want an independent woman. A lady who can bring something to the table....I don't want liability oh,so he said. But funny enough ,if they get the independent ladies,will they be on lock down?......they will still be the one to say they hardly see you...hiss

Great cook: Some guys will say if she is a great cook...is a  lie.
You will cook all your life,but at the end of the day they will not still be on a lock down. I don't believe sha but if you are saying it and you mean it thump ups for you guys.

Good in bed :Yes, this is what i have being waiting for. Some guys are like they want a woman that can give them fantastic s**, a woman who is ready to explore and not stick to a particular thing.
 My ear have full oo.. .............................

Be prayerful- His woman must be prayerful.She should be able to wake up at night for them to pray. Didn't know guys are still into praying women. Nice

Caring: If a woman cares about him and extends to people around him then she has put him on lock down.

Accommodating- A woman that can accommodate him and his friends and cook for them when they go for clubbing. Ladies what do you think? Coming late at night after clubbing then your woman should cook,your own better.

The lady must be rich - Infact Dangote daughter. Are you a thief? i no fit laugh my people.

As for me,am of the opinion that if a man loves he will lock himself down and not the other way round.

Abeg!!!make una ask me na
How can you keep Josephine on a lock down?

Read More →